Well, I think thats the plan Dixie. She has said a couple of times now that there are things we need to "sit down and talk about". When we have that talk I think I have to throw out the ultimatum that she seeks help or I am going to petition the court for full custody and we are going to present all of this garbage in court. I know she doesn't want out oldest to hear all of this. The truth is that that might be the final nail in the coffin for our marriage but if it gives the kids a better future the so be it. There is no way we could stay together if she doesn't get help anyway. Soooo, I guess the last straw to grasp at is that if she starts getting treatment because of my threat, the treatments help her take responsibility for her own life and shine a new light on us.
As the C and I discussed, I will never go back to the marriage we had. If we are able to save anything it will be completely different. The woman I see now I barely know and I realize how little I've actually known about her in all of our 14 years together. We would have to literally start all over as two different people and I don't even know if I would like the real person in place of the fantasy person I have loved so deeply for so long.
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
