Im so sorry to hear that...But, also know that he has not treated wife or spoke to her. So, though it may sound etc. You cant diag. a person via phone and etc. You know that your W has serious issues..Your also looking for something to call it and etc. so you have something real to fight??? That way its not all W's fault. I know cause Ive walked in those shoes before.
From reading your thread...It appears that W has some real issues that need treatment.

Is there anyway you could get her to see someone again? Maybe for the sake of the kids. Tell her its not for you its for them? Just keep the faith and dont give up....


Me: 40 H: 39
M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs
No kids
Seperated: May 18, 2006
EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving.
2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010