Hi everyone over here. I have not been on this site for about 1 year. I was originally over in Infidelity. My Sitch.... H 42 Me 40, I have S18 & D17. We have S10. We have been together 14years. Married for 9years. Bomb dropped 2yrs ago. He decided he wanted out and gave no reason just said it wasn't working after an argument. Me devastated and he just wouldn't say what was going on just that it hadn't been right for awhile. Turns out about 2 months later he tells me there is an OW. Affair had been going on for about 2yrs behind my back and I had no idea. She worked with him. We then went through him going back & forth from her to me and back again I don't know how many times. I was determined that she was never going to have him. I didn't so much care if he met someone else (well I did but I wouldn't have sabotaged it) but no way was he going to be with her. That was my first mission. I was DBing to a point but my motive was wrong. Mind you I succeeded in the end & they only communicate at work now and that is b/c they have to. Yes I had contact with her which I initiated at first with H's permission and she continued. Anyhow for the past year H & I have been I guess dating. Don't worry we have had a lot of ups & downs & alot of lies along the way from him. I think we are coming out of the fog now though. He has now asked to move back in as he wants our M to work. ABOUT TIME.... So for the last 2 nights we have been discussing it and things we want and don't want and you know what.... its weird. I have mixed feelings about this. It is what I have wanted all along and what I have worked towards and now that it is here I really do not know how I feel. 2yrs is a long time to be on your own and to come & go as you like, to have tea when you like to just worry about yourself and the kids and now the dynamics will change. I find the whole thing rather scary & I don't know if I really trust him yet but I guess I just take it one day at a time. I am speaking up for what I want tho & if he doesn't like it then bad luck. Don't get me wrong it is only on a couple of things I feel very strongly about and I have said I will make some changes for him too, so I guess it is baby steps and trying to take it slow. Any advice from people that have been here and things to try and avoid would be appreciated, I know the hard work probably really starts now.......
