Yesterday and last night W was pushing my buttons, continuing to bad mouth individuals in my family, me, my employment, our future, etc. etc. I politely listened for about an hour when I had come home for a late lunch, then went back to work.
W started again right before dinner and I politely told her I did not want to talk about or hear about her anger towards people. W held off during dinner and we had a nice time. Then after dinner W starts in again, so I try to divert my attention by reading a magazine. S12 and D10 are sitting with us at the table and W just keeps going on and on until I raise my voice and say, "I really don't want to hear about this right now, especially infront of the kids."
W say's there you go, you are going to be mean again. They told me at the women's shelter that you would get mean again. I didn't reply and continued reading my magazine.
D10 chimes in, "Mom, why are you pushing Dad's buttons, I can see you smiling when you make him upset." W gets up and leaves the room, and I go to bed.
This morning, everything is fine.
I spent a short, early lunch with W at home, and just called to invite her to a movie. W said that she was sick and didn't want to go out, but that I scored major points by asking her. We agreed that I'll go rent a movie and we'll spend time together at home tonight.
