Unfortunately CJ the only way you are going to understand what's going through his head is by...asking. Ya know, in my sitch (which is almost identical to Heywyre's) I would get the constant excuse of...."I'm just really tired", or as you put it "I'm too tired". That gets really old doesn't it? Well, I finally just stopped accepting that answer from him by saying "then we are going to need to find a way to be together when you AREN'T so tired, like making time for us earlier in the day." Then his excuse would be "but we're just both so busy", to which I'd reply, "that's called LIFE honey, we have to find a way to work time for US into our life because our life won't become less hectic anytime soon."
It's a real pain to have to challenge someone's excuse when they throw one at you. I know it feels like you are the only one doing the R work in your M, and you very well may be....but if neither of you do it you know where you'll end up right? Challenge him, do something out of your normal behavior....like, set your alarm and wake up early and have your way. He can't be too tired then now can he?
Can you tell me what things are going on in his life outside of your home life?
