zuzu wrote:"I know that may have seemed REALLY spiteful, but I truly KNEW that noone would have believed it or "got it" if they had not read what was said first hand. He was in "you're making too big a deal out of this" mode at the time."
Actually, that is called exposure, and I completely agree with what you did, and I don't think you should feel bad about it. Affairs love secrecy. Blowing the fog of deception away often ends affairs on the spot. It also allows others to realize that you may not be the crazy person your spouse may have made you out to be.
Quote:"There is a part of me that is pissed off at how he has practically wiped it off the table, so to speak, yet MY hurts against him are still so at the forefront. However, I truly feel that if I look at the email situation ALONE and don't compare the two issues (as he hates me to do), then I feel like he has honestly cut all communication and put the focus back on us where it should be. I admit that I want to keep things moving forward, while showing him what forgiveness looks like. "
I can truly understand your hurt and confusion. Guys tend to compartmentalize. As I believe I posted to your earlier, he obviously sees the events as completely separate. It is likely that he has a different sense of "fair" than you. This is not at all uncommon.
As long as the differences don't result in unhealthy entitlements, then you might be well served just to take it at face value if you have that capacity (and women seem too much more than men).
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
