He finds excuses to txt or e-mail me. I am polite but detached and I do not initiate contact at all at this point. I am getting a legal separation and have put the house up for sale. I know that this is the right thing to do because I need to do it for myself to get a life. My kids are D19 and S21, each with their own cell phone so contact with them is through that. They tell me that he does alot of fishing about what I am doing, my plans ect. His contact with the kids is sporatic and only when OW is not available, unfortunately. Ow is pressuriing H to have kids and her be one big happy family I knoe they have discussed marriage and buying a new house. Ow has and awful lot of debt and H is her savior. I found out about the debt accidently. Ow had H put her on our joing banking cards. I viewed her financila situation. I think it was the universe acting.
