Thanks for that Going Solo! Nothing like a little Jimmy Buffett when the weather starts to get nice (I'm up in Michigan...).
Nicola - Happiness will return to your life - if you allow it. You know, our heads sometimes can be our own worst enemy. Think of how dreadful you feel physically when you are mentally down or sad. Our minds our the masters of our bodies. So if we are sad or down and we feel physically recked - then it would also follow that eliminating this garbage from our heads and thinking positively and visualizing what we want out of life will cause our entire being to be invigorated and alive!
For me, the D negotiations (I handled this all myself directly with my XW) and her repeated flip flopping and asking for more, attempts to change the arrangements, etc all caused a serious stress. I had two very late attempts out of my XW to make major changes to the settlement. This was horribly stressful - even though other areas of my life were thriving. Now that D mess is over for me. I can breathe again and am not afraid anymore of what might happen. What happens in my life will be what I want to happen - and of course - what God wants for me.
I am happy now and every day my happiness increases. You too will find the same. Get through the D mess - I hope it all goes well for you. You did what you could, the rest now is mearly paperwork. I will say a prayer for you.
