My H told me, and I have no reason really to disbelieve him, that during the As, the thought of leaving me never even entered his mind. He always loved me, he never loved the OW - she was just "an object for sex".

This is one prime example of how the M/W man thinks. It is not because they are running away from a M/R that has problems. They are not living in a fantasy world wherein they dream about leaving their wives and running off with the OW - they usually have no intention of ever doing that. They don't dream of what life would be with that OW because they have the "perfect" wife at home.

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)