I would agree with COG's approach for any other man who does not have W/M. COG, your H, and many of the other men on this board, or the majority of other H's that other women are dealing with on here don't have W/M...so yes, I would say what Heywyre and I are doing with our H's wouldn't work with them...but it does work with men like our H's. I'll let you know in 5-10 years if it's had long-term reprocussions or successes
I think things get complicated in a situation too where there is recent infidelity....because while working on other issues you are also still trying to rebuild shattered trust. It's so hard to build intimacy in a marriage without trust.
