I totally get what you are saying about your R with your H. I could say much of the same about my H too (minus the W/M stuff). I was just questioning how the monitoring gets you closer to your goals (but maybe I don't understand what your goal is). Is the goal to have a healthy SL with your H where he CAN see you as the sexy woman you are? If that is the case, I think COG is right that the monitoring/mothering may hinder not help. LFL
