HB...my H wasn't ready...or at least he panicked a few times after he did come home...just like the other poster who said her H knew it wasn't going to work, stormed out, then returned 20 min. later...I think they are more affraid...more affraid of hurting the family again, of hurting you again...and mostly of being a failure in their own eyes...it is better to quit then fail!
I would say the C has the right idea...except I do think some interaction with you two would be good...just to keep bases warm....D's birthday is a good one...maybe dinner at home every few weeks....this is pretty much how I did it...if I saw H stressing I would let him off the hook by letting him know I had plans so if he wasn't around it was fine with me (GAL)....
I don't think your H is ready for D...but he isn't sure how to get back...and in time I think he can find that...it is so sad to see them in this place...remember he needs your compassion right now...you have to be the strong one for HIM and YOU and THE KIDS!!!...a big job but I think women are better cut out for this stuff because we are more emotional...we can cry and talk and let it all out....regroup...and jump back in...or get pushed back in by our friends...so he is a little nudge for you /o/...
