So we have physically been separated since Jan 7 of this year. But we have kids so we see each other at least twice a week and usually speak or communicate every day. Now she bombed me in early Oct 06. We lived in the UK at the time and were starting to prepare to move back to the US in Dec. I was heading to the US in early Nov for a couple of weeks and she asked me to stay. I was in the US by myself until mid December. But she did bring the girls over the week of Thanksgiving.
We have never spent an significant time apart without communication. I'll go dim for days but we do have some communication about the kids. So I can't help you much in this regard. But I can tell you that your attitude will have a big impact on her. If she senses that you are moving on and gotten control of yourself and your life, (GAL in DB speak) AND she has anything remaining for you, she'll notice. She might not react immediately but she'll notice and react. So for you it's very important to monitor and evaluate right now. Don't be quick to express your feelings or want to talk about your relationship or marriage. Let her speak first and listen carefully.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
