Absolutely the M/W sitch is TOTALLY different from a walk-away
I never had any problem whatsoever concerning sex and/or relationships before my H so this was a total blow to the self esteem for sure.
My H has told me many, many times over (and so has the psychologist) that it is NOT my fault and has absolutely NOTHING to do with me. However, that doesn't mean there isn't anything I can do to help him but first, he has to want to be helped and, hopefully, that's where we are at this point in the game
The difference between a WAS and someone with M/W complex is they don't get involved sexually with someone they would marry, period!! So, if my H was to get fed up and walk-away he definitely would not be seeking out the OW for marriage or to live with. It would be purely for sexual use and nothing more. He looks at women "like that" as dirty.
He cannot put the two, sex and love, together. He sees them as two totally separate entities. We have talked about it extensively and he just can't wrap his head around the thought of "using your wife for that purpose" - he thinks of it as the lowest form of disrespect you can show your wife.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
