I'm glad you liked her. She's very nice, and I think, very perceptive.
As for the trust thing, not sharing with your W can be seen as a breaking of trust. I NEVER LIED to my wife, but I didn't tell her everything unless she happened to ask. She asked about some embarassing things right about the time our M was falling apart and these things served as the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back, I think. I mean just days before this discussion we were on a cruise enjoying a good time. You should see the pictures, she was super happy and so was I. Then I told her some things when she happened to ask and it was all done but the bombing.
I'm not sure how to get the trust back other than being completely forthright with her. And now I can't talk to her, so it's damn near impossible.
Anyway, I hope your W understands why you did what you did. I hope mine does too, and I hope they both believe in repentance and forgiveness.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
