Yep, go with the flow. Be in a good mood, act as if nothing wierd is going on, yeah it is hard. If nothing else, be you, the new you.I do not know if Jodi told you the same thing as me, but one of her questions to me was I in it for the long haul, and could I do it at whatever pace W does this,
Yeah, I'm in it for the long haul for sure! This is worth every minute and every dime I have to spend. Unfortunately, I didn't know about this meeting the last time I spoke with Jodi. I'll be scheduling with her first thing Friday morning to talk about next steps after meeting #1.
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I love my W, and if this is what is meant to happen, so be it. I still believe it is going to work out. I believe you love yours just as much, so it is only "you" who can decide if this DB'ing is for you and the time it probably will take. I will have good thoughts for you two.
Good Luck
Thanks for the post man, I really appreciate it! I love my wife more than anything, and I'm dedicated to standing for this marriage as long as I have to. Thanks again!
I'll probably be back tomorrow freaked out again, I don't do well for the first little while outside of my comfort zone.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
So we have physically been separated since Jan 7 of this year. But we have kids so we see each other at least twice a week and usually speak or communicate every day. Now she bombed me in early Oct 06. We lived in the UK at the time and were starting to prepare to move back to the US in Dec. I was heading to the US in early Nov for a couple of weeks and she asked me to stay. I was in the US by myself until mid December. But she did bring the girls over the week of Thanksgiving.
We have never spent an significant time apart without communication. I'll go dim for days but we do have some communication about the kids. So I can't help you much in this regard. But I can tell you that your attitude will have a big impact on her. If she senses that you are moving on and gotten control of yourself and your life, (GAL in DB speak) AND she has anything remaining for you, she'll notice. She might not react immediately but she'll notice and react. So for you it's very important to monitor and evaluate right now. Don't be quick to express your feelings or want to talk about your relationship or marriage. Let her speak first and listen carefully.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
T-4 hours!!! Can't wait. I am glad I have some family things to do between now and then. I'm calm on the surface and a broiling storm underneath (Actually I think that's from pushing it too far at the gym this morning - ouchie!)
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
