Good sign? I didn't IM or email or call DH all day. He called around 6 saying he was on his way home and did I want him to stop at a store near his work for some lunch stuff. Wow. Then he had dinner with us. He asked if I timed it so that it would be ready when he got home, but I was honest and said no, I just had to cook the meat so it wouldn't go bad... LOL!! Maybe I should have lied?
See, I think 7yoDS is my protector. He spends most nights with his dad. The first time he stayed home after staying with DH, he came into my room in the middle of the night. I wasn't sleeping well then and so I was awake. I asked if he was checking on me and he said yes. I took him back to bed and promised him I wasn't going anywhere. Another night, when I called to say goodnight, I told him I missed him and he said no you don't... and I said I always miss you when you're gone and said "even when I'm in school?" LOL!!
My 16yo is very angry and has only had dinner with DH once since this has happened.
I think the 13yo is confused. We haven't asked them to choose sides (and never would), but I think he's confused. At first he told his friends DH and I were getting a divorce and he was going to have to go live with his dad because I don't make enough money to support all of us. We explained that wasn't true and he has since spent 2 nights with his dad. Tonight was supposed to be his night, but he let 7yoDS take his place and he'll take Friday and Saturday. Of course, I'm thinking "when's my turn?"
Totally get the unreality of this whole mess!! When DH told me he had an A, I laughed!! I said "you're just teasing me to see how I'll react." Nope. Holy crap... it was like my whole world fell apart... like my legs were knocked out from underneath me. Made me sick to my stomach for weeks. Oh, it was horrible... such a black time in my life. The man *I* know would never do that to me. Like you, I love this man and refuse to give up hope. He's worth fighting for. Our marriage is worth fighting for. Our family is worth fighting for. *I* am worth fighting for!
You know... we were on a cruise just a month before he left. I have a picture of us both and while we haven't been happy all the time the past 2 years, there is real happiness in the picture. He even had the photographer wait til he came and knelt beside me to have the picture taken.
He's very ashamed that he had the A. I think he blames me for some of that. He was in the Navy for over half our marriage and was never unfaithful. That was always a source of pride for him and now that he's had an A, he's very ashamed. (We had this conversation about a week before he left.)
We explained that wasn't true and he has since spent 2 nights with his dad. Tonight was supposed to be his night, but he let 7yoDS take his place and he'll take Friday and Saturday. Of course, I'm thinking "when's my turn?" 
