HB, you are an amazing person to be able to bounce right back to DB'ing. Don't let this get you down too much, we are here for you to vent. It can just be a temporary thing before h comes back for good. I am trying to analyze (like you need more analyzing, ha ha) your situation. I am not sure I totally agree with C about not talking and no activities as this limit your chance to DB. I figure IF you can keep it at the "acquaintance" level (which I am pretty sure you can), it should be OK. But take this with a grain of salt as it is just me. I will tell you that one turning point for my h was when he took the kids out for the weekend out of town trip. I think he only then realized the work/effort needed to take care of the kids. He has never had to take care of them alone for more than a couple of hours, at home. He also told me (when we are piecin) that with just three of them, something was missing (i.e. me). So the trip to WI may be good without you. Hey, may be you can go to a yoga retreat or whatever other funky stuff. I am just trying to share my experience and hope may be some may apply in your situation. Just so tough because everyone is different. Think of summer as a good time for you to learn a new sport and enjoy. Take care and hugs.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
