Sometimes it's hard to distinguish between a doused feisty spirit and the rest huh? At least that's something I sometimes "struggle" with. I do find the stronger/more confident I become, the less I have a problem with it because I'm not worried about most things I used to worry about.
Dressing seductively in winter...IGgy bought me a great medium weight turtleneck sweater at old navy for Christmas - form fitting with these strategically placed darty looking lines - light colored. It looks great with low rise, boot cut jeans and great boots with about 1" heel. And you can even wear long johns underneath
Of course, there's always the bulky snuggly robe with maribu under it...