Thanks all for your replies. Honestly how would I do this without you?
Ha ha, XYZ is so correct about my feisty spirit. It doesn't like a dousing.
I am learning to HARNESS that spirit in the interest of accomplishing my goals. And yes, XYZ, you are so wise -- the spirit will want expression somewhere, won't it?
So let's be creative about it, shall we?
Today I was able to do that when I wanted to make love but my H was reluctant. Instead of freezing in worry ("Is his mind on younger, more beautiful bods?") I got creative with my own ahem toys. Smiled at H and shrugged off his not being in the mood as not being in the mood. "Jeez, moodiness -- us women don't know anything about moodiness, do we, honey? What's the big deal?" Smile.
H actually laughed, lightened up too, and then opened up enough to admit to a little peformance anxiety. Hmm... food for thought.
He's not sure he can keep up with me lately, ladies.
Smile again.
Actually I'm feeling real honest humility today. I'm proud of my H for returning to me and being vulnerable to me again.
And of course you know I'm proud of myself for my amazing self-discipline and strength. And for squeezing into heels when need be.
(And speaking of creativity -- how do YOU GUYS manage to dress suggestively in winter?)
