I wish there was a way I could explain to you that this IS the track that needs to be taken so you would see the sense in it....but I can't think of a way because you are as steadfast in your opinion as Heywyre and I are. So I'll leave it at...this is what HAS worked for me in this situation with my husband, I followed some very sage advice that was given to me from many folks AND more importantly I listened to my gut and followed that above everyone else. Heywyre and I have discussed things on here and off, she is MUCH like I am, her H is also MUCH like my H....while no one approach will work for every situation, this one is also working for her. So, do what works.
I promise, if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, I won't shove this approach down your throat. Wouldn't want to mother ya
