I think the "self" we find when we go through this process is something that we actually enjoy. I enjoyed finding myself - I realized that I liked that "guy" and wanted "him" to stay around. I think we all have to be careful that we don't lose ourself again - especially as we share ourselves with someone else. Sure, life is a compromise and no two people will ever get along if they didn't work together and compromise. But I think we all need to remember and speak up for what we really want and need to do. You know, I had a lot of time to exercise when I went through this mess. I haven't had so much now - there are lots of excuses, but in the end they are still excuses. I will get back to it immediately now that this stress and extra workload is gone. We have to keep doing the things that made us feel better you know!
I am glad things are moving for you. As you said - a slow road. Maybe you were ready for him, maybe not. But as I have learned our time means precisely squat in regards to God's timing. Hang in there. Better days are ahead for you.
