One more thing I forgot to mention (like my response wasn't long enough huh?) A byproduct of my H's accountability to me when I was verifying and checking up on him to rebuild MY trust, was that he learned to be open with me about more than just bills/cell phones. He's really learned to be more open with himself with me, to share himself with me...he's learned to trust that I wasn't going to abandon him or sentence him to a life of being judged for what he did to me/our marriage either.
Heywyre...this was exactly the same thing in my sitch...what a shock huh since our guys happen to be so very similar.
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the positives definitely outweigh the negatives in this situation and I think once this is dealt with, it will be extremely beneficial to not only me to gain the trust back, but also to my H to confirm in his mind that all women are NOT "the same" and there is actually someone out there that loves him and is willing to fight for their R, even if it means putting him in an uncomfortable position
