There are so many times that I have thought the same thing about my H not deserving me. Don't get me wrong I have several faults and I have apoligized for my problems in the marriage. I consider myself better than the things he has put me through. My head tells me that, but it is taking a little longer for the heart, but I'm definitely getting stronger.
It sounds like your W is at the same place my H is. He still hasn't shown any remorse. I know without remorse it will not work. Don't get me wrong I have seen hurt in his eyes when we talk, but he never comes out and says let's work on this, I'm sorry. Who knows if that will ever happen? That's why we have to get on with our lives. We will be better people no matter what happens. We have stood for our familes.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
