welcome! you've had a rough time piecing, without the violent outburst you are describing my H to a T (and me too in you!) for, yes, the first 3-4mths he was back. It takes a while but they can came around and that person we married.
If he wants to read a book with you I highly recommend "Healing the hurt in your marriage" take advantage that he wants to do this!! my H always scoffs at my self help books too, so now that he said he wants to read with you strike while the iron is hot. This great book starts with ways to cope with conflict, as you know, 69% of issues at home are NOT solvable, what's left is us learning to give and take and make deals.
You and him have come a long way, always count the positive aspects of our R.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
