Because of where I am "at", I'm not feeling at all qualified to give out any advice.
I CAN say that I believe I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. We haven't been able to get our H's to change (over the years) even though we've done all of that we know .. to change what we could. (Within ourselves of course, 'cause that's all we have control of .. )
Obviously it's not been enough, because our H's are still doing the toxic stuff that damages a M.
Yes, I have been to Al-Anon (in the past.) I'm not sure if I should start individual counseling or start attending the Al-Anon meetings, once again. Something I will have to decide.
Oh .. and for the record .. my H says pretty much the same thing (as your H) about counseling. He says that the psychologists are all nut-cases theirselves and that most are only in it for the money.
