Working on building trust

[Dom R]

some do. But, speaking as a man, i could care less about it.
At one point, I wanted "my space", so my (then girlfriend at the time) would have been more appealing if she was more independant.

But after going through the crud she's put me through...
no, i would be quite happy with a "dependant" woman. one who I knew would never betray me again.
It would be far more comforting to me, than if she was "more independant" and wanted to live separate lives.

Now... the perspective of a man who was the betrayer, I can imagine would be very different. when he sees his wife being more independant, his selfish nature kicks in and makes him want to make sure he doesnt lose what "he has", i'd imagine.

Dont get me wrong: I think that there's nothing bad about an "independant, but committed" wife.
But if I were given the choice between "independant" and "dependant".. I'd pick dependant right now, that's for sure :-/