Heather, there is nothing you can do when someone has contempt for you. You cannot hit your target when someone is callously and cruelly yanking the target back and forth.
EXACTLY
Take care of yourself Heather, and know that you have come a long way in working on yourself. Nobody said you have to be perfect. Find yourself. Be honest. Do your best to not return hurt for hurt.
Again, Ditto.
Heather,
I know you "gave" back the bedroom because it was not "worth" the battle to you. You may have done it in the hope that your H would step up to the plate and finally show you some care and empathy but you cannot "make" your H feel empathy. It's not your fault or failure if he doesn't. Your H has some deep pychological issues that HE needs to decide he wants to work on and there is no way for you to "make" him do that work.
Regardless of what you decide and what direction you go next, please try to stay the middle ground. Do not give in but do not attack. MUCH easier said than done but it is the RIGHT way to handle him and the right way for you to keep your dignity and self respect.
Good Luck!!
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
