I pushed her. Whether or not I pushed her AWAY will be up to her.
Our experience has been that we need pushing, especially her. There's nothing that I've said to her that can't be treated as a volley, retreated from, and then pressure reapplied in another way, at another time, in another place.
There's a reason why I chose this Subject title for my thread. I am GOING to make mistakes here, and so is my wife. Mine will not be errors of omission, or of silence, or of complacency.