You can't hold your wife at gun point and force her back into the marriage. She will only only intensify her stance and dare you to pull the trigger.
You pushed her away.
You screwed up, everybody in your position does. Big deal.
So, are you going to get up, dust yourself off and get back into the game, or are you going to take your ball and go home?
It is, of course, your choice. You do need to consider your responsibilities to your kids while you are pondering your next move.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
