Just a couple opinions before your go. I think you should go to MC sessions ASAP. If your W balks, you go by yourself. Tell the MC everything and let him/her set up a plan of action for you. Don't be afraid to challenge the MC on things you disagree with, but take any advice he/she gives you seriously. Even though every situation is unique, there are patterns among troubled R's, and strategies that have the best pct. chance of working.
Two, sometime in the next month or so, decide on something you REALLY REALLY have wanted to do, and would be feasible for you to do it, then make plans and do it. Do something that is going to make you happy, ecstatic if possible. Even though your marriage is stinking right now, there are really cool things out there in life. Distract yourself. Remind yourself that life can be wonderful, even amidst a crisis. You deserve it my man.
All the best back at you
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
