You are in an incredibly self-destructive mode right now.
You are the sniveling co-worker at the water cooler saying "Look, I'm going to quit baking you brownies, quit surprising you with wacky gifts that I pick up when I'm thinking about you shopping, quit trying to be nice to you, quit sharing my day with you, quit taking a break from what I'm doing to spend time with you at the water cooler, UNLESS you make some effort to be my friend. You have to at least tell me you will TRY to be my friend, or forget it, the brownies and everything else. Oh, and being civil to me and saying good morning is NOT going to cut it. Instead, you need to go out for milk if I bother to surprise you with brownies. You need to buy ME my favorite candybar when you are at the store. Otherwise, again, FORGET IT. I will NOT be your friend anymore."
Exactly how much closer is that rant by the water cooler creep going to bring you to friendship?
Does that clear up the problems in the email to W for you?
You WANT your sitch to be different than everyone elses. IT ISN'T. You are sabotaging your M, you are sabotaging yourself. You aren't fighting for your M, you are trying to be "right" and "make a point." You want everything on your terms and YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET IT. The more you push for it, the less likely reconcilliation will be.
Your W was trying to figure out what she wanted. She was working on accepting MC and preparing herself to go. SHE WAS giving you something, it was just not what she wanted.
Forget Piecing, go post in Newcomers or Infidelity.
If you read DR and decide to try to DB, I'll be around.
But right now, I probably won't have much more to say. No reason to shout at the guy banging his head against the wall to get him to stop, he can't hear you anyway.
