Anything wrong with you saying after you've kissed or cuddled her Honey I LOVE kissing you and I love it even more when you kiss or cuddle me first? That way you're letting her know what you'd like but not being needy.
You could say I loved it when you put notes in with my lunch and I miss them. Now I know that might sound like you're asking but there is a subtle difference that as a woman I get. Namely you're not telling her to do it just stating a fact and it is up to her whether she responds or not.
Obviously only one thing at a time slowly slowly does it. You don't disconnect overnight so it will take time to reconnect.
