I love your tag "JustD" - it says so much. And putt-putt sounds like a great time.
My H isn't interested (yet?) in anything that smacks of dates or private intimate times - the only times we are alone is if we are having a "business" meeting for schedule arranging. He seems so paranoid to even hint that we could have fun again...
This morning he had to consider if he had time to spend with S2 while I work from 4 - 8pm since he has a "social engagement." I think when I'm feeling my most narrow-focused - and least self-sufficient -- I am most jealous of his social life that he has because he's living with a bachelor friend while I, who have a great set of married girlfriends, have to either do all of the social arranging or be alone (the marrieds do little socializing outside their own couplehoods). I know I just have to keep calling and arranging, but sometimes it would be nice to have someone care about calling me. <<boo-hoo >>
Seriously, though: How do you GAL when your social world centered around married friends who you knew mainly through H's workplace?
(We live in a tiny town of 9,000 and there are few other options.)
And yet, I know exactly what you mean about feeling guilty. A book I am reading is "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" -- my DB Coach's suggestion. Really interesting, but the more I'm reading, the more I'm realizing what I did to bring us here. I wish I could just tell H "let's just start over together" but I know he doesn't want to hear that...
Boy this is a whiney post. Sorry -- I woke up a bit on the sour side today.
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