I have not contacted the OM wife. I could but I have not. My feeling is (at this time) what is happening between them is not my concern. My only concern is my R. With my W.
Try not to let the OMW give you more things to worry about or be concerned about. Your last statement: “Who knows if she was right or just being paranoid?” Keep thinking like this. Is the right mind set?

Stay strong

H

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know