I told my W this morning "thank you for bringing me clients, but I can't do any more free favors and I need to charge the loyal clients a discount so I can recuperate my time and expenses...." this is regarding my artwork..... then she started getting defensive and said "well then stop doing the work" and I said "it's not that I want to stop, it's that it is killing me when I keep doing free stuff for your friends that are my clients too", she basically doesn't grasp what doing good business is all about...and I can't reason with her...
So I started getting upset, angry, but instead of lashing out at her and pointing the finger, I brought up therapy. I would normally get all heated over something like this, and I would bring up all the problems we have/had, but instead I told her..."So when are we going to therapy?"
She tried to avoid the issue...
I repeated: "If you are serious about our M and want to prevent wheat happened from happening again...we are going to therapy. When do you wanna go?"
She said "with what money? I just bought food...blah blah blah.."
That's what she does when I bring up a serious topic that centers around the rest of our lives together.... I told her "I spend X amount each month from my job for insurance. We only pay $20 for the first 3 sessions. When do you wanna go?"
She said something else that went in one ear and came out the other. I just left for work and said something to her about needing to work on our problems with therapy.....
I know she is avoiding.....but I am not. I'm giving her the opportunity to work on our M or I am filing for separation. I haven't got to the separation part yet....but I am not playing by her game....she's stalling and avoiding, and nothing has really changed in my M.
Also, thank you all for those lyrics, now I have something to sing to....and add some "twang" in it....
Last edited by sol1696; 05/23/0701:00 PM.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
