On the personal front, I have been laying the groundwork for winning any potential custody dispute. It was suggested that showing W as having a consistant pattern of unstable relationships and problematic behaviors would significantly help my case. To do that I have been trying to get a clear picture of her history. I knew that her first husband had been killed in an auto accident a few years ago and had been trying to find his widow. I found her today. She said he didn't talk a whole lot about his first marriage (to my W) but he did talk about a few.....things. She told me that before he and my W could get married, he had to sleep with W's mom "so she could be sure he would be a good husband for her daughter". I almost dropped the phone. W has denied that there was any sexual abuse even though she is a textbook case and then I am told this and......oh my, I don't think there is any question now. Now I just have to figure out what to do with all of this.
Well, had a night to sleep on all of this and still have no idea what to do with it. Strangely though its almost comforting. As much as I want my marriage to work, I now have a lot of information that helps explain why W is the way she is. Ideally she will see all of this and get the help she needs but if not I think I have the info I need in a custody situation and confirmation of my W as a somatic narcissist. I now understand the little voice in the back of my head that has been uncomfortable with some of the things W has done and the sexual undertone to many things.
I would like an opinion....D9 had a birthday party a few weeks ago. W set up a version of pin the tail on the donkley where she put lipstick on the girls and had them kiss a poster of Johnny Depp/Orlando Bloom from Pirates. Does anyoe have an opinion on this game? Ok? not ok? what do you think?
Stand up for what is right, even if you are standing alone.
