Don't send her emails like this!!! You really should read tough love by Dr. Dobson. He actually has an email prepared that your could have sent to your wife. When you have a WAS and the left behind spouse is the HD partner, it is YOUR actions that will determine the future of the marriage, NOT HERS. Dobson wants you to show your spouse that even though you love them, that YOUR life will go on WITHOUT her, that YOU are a strong person, that YOU are not needy. You need to show nothing but strength. Set your boundries. Effectively, you are now single again. Treat her as if the two of you had just met for the first time, you would expect nothing of her, while putting forth you best efforts to be attractive to her.
Read his book. At this point, any chance to save what you have left is ENTIRELY up to how you REACT. In order to to have any chance at winning her back, you have to love her enough to let her go.
