You seem as desperate for a sign as I am. I keep looking for the little things. Like the baby steps we are taking to try to repair our R’s.

You said it yourself.” That's the weird thing. OM was out of town until tonight. She could have been with him but she was around here”
I don’t know if in my sitch if I’m just grasping at straws but I try to find and look at things that are not said. Little things that my W does that are not what she would / should do if she was calling it quits. She could have been with the OM but she wasn’t. This is a good sign to me.
In my sitch. The little “thank-you for going out with me letter” I sent my wife just disappeared. If she was truly ready to call it quits I would have found it in the trash all crumpled up. Even if she took it to work to throw it away. Her FIRST reaction was not to just toss it. Maybe she didn’t want to hurt my feelings and throw it away at home. Still she had some compassion not wanting to hurt my feelings.
Use the fact that she could have been with the OM but was with you instead as a little moral booster.

Take it easy (or like me take it anyway you can get it)

H

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know