This is GREAT. You have upset the applecart, which is just what you needed to do. Now, let her figure out that she wants you :-)
If you are right that she is pushing OM away to have space to figure out what she wants, then him pestering her in anyway is going to backfire and work in your favor. Let him be the pathetic one. You can be the strong, attractive, fun, exciting guy that really enjoys her, but will be just fine without her if necessary, thank you.
Yeah, except she's TOTALLY shutting me out!!! Tonite, S10, S14, D18, W and I all went out for dinner at a local sports pub. We had had a really nice time (altho both my W and my sons were freaking that I sat next to their mother, which I NEVER do). Then my wife brought up to D18 that she had a "doctor's appointment" tomorrow, which is actually a 6-month re-check with the plastic surgeon on her tummy tuck. D18 balked, as she was busy tomorrow, so I said "You want me to go with you?"
"No, I'll be fine."
She's doing this on purpose. She ALWAYS has liked company for doctor's visits.
Today in car pool line, I called her, We had a nice chat for 10-15 minutes while she ate a salad in the car, and then she abruptly ended the calling saying "they want me to move up, I'll have to call you back."
30 minutes later, no call, and so I left for lunch. Got a voice-mail from her a little while later, saying "Sorry I didn't call you back, they were wanting me to pull up, and then (S10) got in the car, and I forgot to call you back. Call me, or else I'll just see you later."
I didn't call her back. I was pissed, because since the "bomb" she hasn't ONCE initiated a phone call to me, unless it's for something she needed (like today, when she needed her debit card).
When I came home tonite, she said "Did you get my message?" I just said "Yes," and I left to run an errand.
It's hard to show I'm the better man when she won't give me half a chance.
