I don't know, Hey. I kind of agree w/ COG. You guys are making progress and you haven't seen any indication that he's still calling anybody. Then again, you did ask for it and he did agree but hasn't come through.

How strongly do you feel about it? I've been going through the same thing, wondering if H is still talking to OW, but I've decided to leave it alone for now. Part of me wants to just ask so I KNOW, but part of me wants to start trusting again and hoping that he is deciding to make the right choices on his own.

Do you think maybe if we just start trusting again and not needing to see hard evidence, they will start feeling trustworthy again? I just don't know the answer. I'll be interested to see what everyone says.

I think it will come down to if it is going to absolutely drive you nuts if you don't see it. I don't think I would look at it as he said he would show you and hasn't. If you can live w/o seeing it and feel like you are beginning to trust him again, I'd just let it go.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10