I understand where you are coming from COG but we had a MAJOR discussion about this several weeks ago and there is a real trust issue over his constant lying. It needed to be dealt with, and was as far as I was concerned, and the end result was that he would show me the cell and visa bills. After all, they are coming out of money I earn too. We don't have separate accounts, we don't "hide" anything else other than these two items. That sends up red flags and he knows it.
He doesn't know how to use email (thank goodness) and it is a 3-hour drive to see her, so that is out of the question too.
That leaves me with the cell phone, which he uses literally for everything, including phoning his friends when he is sitting in the house with a land line right beside him. I know this is crucial for my sanity, and he agreed to it - which is the bottom line.
This one particular cell bill is important as it is during the time frame he went to the other city where OW is and was "out of service" for about 3-4 hours - no explanation other than he had it turned off (which he NEVER does).
Yes, he can use pay phones, but he wouldn't do that because it is long distance (much too expensive and you have to have the exact change to do it, which he wouldn't have on hand)
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
