-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I thought my dad was doing better, but this morning his chest xray looked worse, and by the afternoon he had a procedure where they drained over a liter of fluid from his lungs. My father is no VIP ( well to me he is)...he's just this elderly medicare patient, yet the care is just so appropriately decisive. If the decision were left to me, I would have wanted to wait another day( for more evidence of worsening), so as not to put him through another procedure. It's weird...I came down here expecting to have to get involved with the care, to get the hospital to do something, but they are doing what needs to be done. I feel grateful at the moment.
( well, then again, my father did get a hospital acquired infection, so I can rail at them for that).
I am seeing as I type this that I have transferred my feelings onto the hospital, as some sort of defense.
Anyway, none of this has to do with SSM but I need a place to sort things through, so thanks.
Hey Lil, I have found myself saying the She'ma a few times...it works, sort of!
okay, I am beginning to see what's happening to me...rather than getting in touch with the real reason I am here, to be with my father and support my family, I am instead focusing on and critiquing the care.
I haven't been in touch how I feel about this whole thing.
I firmly believe that everyone who's in the hospital needs a gutsy and outspoken advocate to make sure they're getting the proper care. There was at least one time when I'm pretty sure I saved my husband's life because he had pneumonia and he was not getting the oxygen he needed. I went to a pay phone and called his kidney specialist who immediately came over and put him in the ICU. I'm not trying to scare you, but if you see something that doesn't look right to you, DON'T assume the hospital personnel are on top of things. The family is in the room all the time and often spots things that need attention. The staff can't be there all the time. Don't be shy about speaking up, being a pest, and asking questions. Err on the side of caution, kwim?
AND you're probably also right-- that you're feelings about being there are probably overwhelming. Doesn't negate what may very well be legitimate critique of his care.
Lillieperl wrote: " I firmly believe that everyone who's in the hospital needs a gutsy and outspoken advocate to make sure they're getting the proper care."
I absolutely agree.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Sorry to hear about your dad. I will say a prayer for him.
I know how hard it can be to have a family member sick. My grandfather has been in and out of the hospital for the past few months. : ( Try to find time to take care of yourself also.
...rather than getting in touch with the real reason I am here, to be with my father and support my family, I am instead focusing on and critiquing the care.
Hi NJ,
Your presence at your father's bedside may mean even more to him and your family than you realize. Even without "getting in touch with the real reason" you are there, you are manifesting love and care by what you *are* doing. And if I were spending hours and hours at a hospital, I would certainly make note of the quality of the hospital's healthcare as well. This attention is an additional form of care that you are providing.
Your father will be in my prayers as well.
LG
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
