From your new thread...running multiple threads can be confusing, so I'm pasting this here which will bump you up.
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my thread is "Is this MLC? I'm new to the boards and I need some help to understand the pull and the control that the OW has on them. I put our house up for sale simply because both my kids are going to university and I myself have reenrolled and moving closer to my work and the university makes more sense. I don't see myself being alone in this big old house in the fall. I got a lawyer to help separate the finacials and was very upfront about this with my H. This OW has had 4 relationships including the affair with my H since we moved here 4 years ago. A marriage that ended in divorce, a common law living arragnement, a boy friend ( I might add at the same time as she was having the affair with my H) I recieved an email a few days ago from my H letting me know that he was not getting a lawyer. I thought this was odd. He went on to say that he knows I will be fair. Today a letter arrives from my H that is a copy of the letter that was sent from my H to my lawyer. The letter was offically typed ( no way by my H... not a chance) and I goes on to say that our separation is and amicable one ( I am detached but polite) and that he and I have already made the arrangements verbally. I didn't he did.
I see the OW's hand in this, is this expected?
Oh yeah, for some OWs. LEt her control him. I've herad many LBSs say that the reason their MLCer left the OW (whether the MLCer returned home or not) was because of the controlling--as was told to them by their MLCer.
It can take a long tim...but to me it seems to be the main reason for the eventual break-up.
Sorry though...I still don't get the lawyer part. I understand your financial concerns, but is there another way?
As for visions...yes, I absolutely believe. Not all KNOWINGS are visual either...there are many routes to communication. But have faith. If you felt you were supposed to put the house on the market and it wouldn't sell...well you may be right or you may have misinterpreted whether it will sell or not. BUT if it's on the market...people are going to view it right...but it still may not sell. It's tough, but follow Faith.
