You're so right about husbands not wanting to come back because they think the damage has already been done. At least, it was that way with me. My H kept saying that he didn't want to try to reconcile because he "didn't think there was anything there." That really used to irritate me because we had never been separated before, nor had we ever discussed any maritial rift between us. This was the first time, so how could he say that he didn't think there was anything there?
I figure if you can fall in love with them the first time, you can rekindle and fall in love again. It may not be the hot passionate love comeplete with butterflies, but I believe you can find love and happiness again. It just takes 2 people to try.
All my best, alamogirl
Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb) H - 43 married - 16 Jul 94 no children 1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06 2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06 H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06 Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07
