"No, she is instead displaying all of the earmarks of someone who is CONFUSED, who has put WHATEVER it was the two of them were thinking either OFF, or ON HOLD, until she can figure out her feelings for me, and what she wants to do with her marriage. SHE IS STRESSING, BIG TIME."
Choc,
This is GREAT. You have upset the applecart, which is just what you needed to do. Now, let her figure out that she wants you :-)
If you are right that she is pushing OM away to have space to figure out what she wants, then him pestering her in anyway is going to backfire and work in your favor. Let him be the pathetic one. You can be the strong, attractive, fun, exciting guy that really enjoys her, but will be just fine without her if necessary, thank you.
