========== It's just that I am discovering that my H is a very complex man, and i used to thing he was the simplest man I knew. ========= Oh jeez, I too used to think I had my H pegged into the hole I had made for him! I think both of us underestimated and downgraded our Hs at some degree.
Hon, unless he agrees to T on his own, you cannot "fix" him, therapy is useless if the person is pushed into it, he has to decide to accep there is a problem. You can only be supportive and not enable him when his addictions require you to go out of your way.
Have you mention couples counceling, perhaps that way he won't feel singled out, and once there you can bring up the addiction traits?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
