Ok, good advice. This is exactly what I'd like to do. I do want to be the one for her and I know that my counseling, prescriptions, etc have helped me understand the problem and address it.

My wife has said that she doesn't want to "date" me. How do I get her to let me provide these things to her? If I ask her out, as I'm planning to do tonight, and she says "NO" what should I do? I don't want to get back into the "begging" again.

I would really like to get her alone and tell her all this, then get her in the sack. But, I think that she'll reject me.

----------

MJ, I understand that you're coming from the HDW side of things, which is very helpful. But, do I not get any credit for taking the steps I've done??? My wife said in counseling two weeks before she left that "things were going good." Why throw out a 13 year marriage when I'm working on this? I'm a good guy. She even says that I'm a good husband and a good provider. So, why chunk it all?? A marriage is suppose to have some give and take in it. "In sickness and in health".... If I'm continuing to work on things why not keep working with me?

Sure she may find someone that'll give her some sex and probably a new husband someday. But, every relationship has it's problems and she'll just be trading one set of problems for another set. I know that everything in my marriage can be "FIXED". Even if there was only a small percentage that things could be fixed, I think that it would be worth trying. What if she had cancer, some sort of psychological issue, or couldn't have children and I wanted them, would it be fair to just walk out?

MJ, did your husband try to work on things? Was it an honest effort? Would you have given him another chance if he was working on the problem?

I know I was wrong --- I should have done more sooner. But damn, can I get some credit here?? Getting all the credit in the world still won't solve things -- only convincing my wife that I truly love her and want her and will have sex with her is the only way. So, how do I do this without it becoming a battle or appear to be begging?????