No, I really don't think you are dealing with W/M, I think your H's difficulty with affection is trust related and it's just going to take time and continued validation from you. I also think that there are probably some things you will find that he just really doesn't like to do, that you would like...so you may have to find some substitutions (like with french kissing). One of the most difficult things I've had to do was change my perception of what I thought I wanted...to what I really needed to fit my needs.
I once thought I needed my H to make mad passionate love to me, I've found that was a want, not a need. What I really needed was to somehow feel connected to him, to feel special to him...I've since found other things that make me feel that way, such as the displays of affection (that BTW I agree to recognize as efforts on his part)...or him opening up and telling me how he feels about me and our son.
I've also learned that in his own ways...he always has been showing me that I'm special to him...but I didn't see it before. I learned his version of "cuddling" wasn't my version...so I've altered my catalog of "affection" to include his version and recognize it when he does it (which btw is sitting on the couch playing with my feet & legs LOL that for him is a version of cuddling/quality time). Stuff like that.
