Ok, so my wife and I had another nice evening, watched some tv, talked, had some pizza togther, even joked about the lawyers being bad-asses. She asked me why i got a new lawyer, i said 'because i found out you hired one of the top lawyers in the city, and I was outgunned.'. She laughed and asked how I found that out. I said a simple web-search, then i told her how my lawyer and hers have been trying cases against eachother for 25 years, and that we now have the two most bad-ass lawyers in the city. She laughed. She asked - what did you talk about... I avoided the question, and said just simple initial consulation stuff, probably the same stuff you and your lawyer talked about. I also was able to say to my wife "you know how I feel about all of this, i don't need to say it again, so i won't". She knew what i meant and got kind of quiet. I don't know if she is having doubts, or what.
Anyways we moved on in the conversation, and I said goodnight to my wife around 11:30, i got the feeling she didn't want to say goodnight.
Then this morning 180 from her. She wants to talk about moving, and family counseling. I told her it was 8:10AM and probably not the right time to talk about it as we needed to get the girls to school. She looked annoyed, she wanted to talk about her moving into the city - we live in the suburbs. Even though i had some strong opinions about one of us moving to the city, i asked her how she felt about the moving thing. She talked it through and basically talked herself out of it. WOW! I didn't even have to try to come to a compromise. If only i would have listened more and not tried to push my agendas when our marriage was good. I simply said, i'm glad we both feel the same way about it and think its best to keep the little girls in the same school right now.
Then she reminded me to call the family counselor this afternoon, as she didn't want to take forever messing around with this stuff. :S
I wanted to drag my feet on it, but i guess i'll respect her desire to meet with the family counselor. My lawyer recommended him, her lawyer recommended someone else. I tryed to handle it diplomatically but my lawyer said the one her lawyer recommended typically did Parental Evaluations, and i should avoid going to see her. So maybe my wifes annoyance is that I didn't agree to go meet with her family counselor. I told her if she wanted to we could meet with both and pick the one we felt most comfortable. She was short and said no just call your guy. I asked if she wanted to talk to him first before i scheduled something. She said no.
Well, i guess i can only slow things down so much. I will call and schedule something. My lawyer said this guy is good, very compassionate, and doesn't pull any punches when it comes to the affects of divorce on kids. He will be very clear on how damaging it is to them. Lets see if my wife will go into the meeting with an open mind.
